Confused on what to do now that you have the ring? From a former bride who planned her own wedding, here’s a list of some difficult obstacles and how to overcome them.
What is traditionally known as the most difficult aspect of wedding planning? The answer isn’t concrete, but there are several standout factors. From the budget to the guest list, a bride’s agenda can start off with more questions than answers. To alleviate a little bit of that infamous wedding stress, here’s a short guide of basics.
Different Types of Wedding Vendors
There are several vendors that may come into play when planning one’s wedding:
* Caterer * Cake bakery * Dress shop * DJ/band/musician * Photographer/Videographer * Florist * Jewelry store for rings * Wedding insurance * Hair/makeup artist(s) * Invitation store * Venue * Officiant * Studio for dance lessons
This lengthy list can seem overwhelming, and while in that state of mind, it might seem impossible to make some key choices. Luckily there is an expert for just this purpose.
What a Wedding Planner Does
The job of the wedding planner depends on the span of time he/she is hired for. Some are only there for the day of the wedding for vendor confirmation and a smooth transition of events. Others are there every step of the way to accompany the couple to meetings, take the reigns with vendor negotiations, and keep track of the budget.
A bride’s choice of planner depends on her budget’s elasticity. A wedding planner’s fees can range anywhere from a flat rate of $500 for the sole task of securing a venue, to 10-15% of the entire wedding budget.
Who Pays for a Wedding?
The budget is arguably one of the most difficult facets of wedding planning, and it is the very first thing a couple should discuss when embarking upon the planning process. This will lay the groundwork for the entire wedding.
First, the future Mr. and Mrs. should figure out the source of the money. Traditionally, the bride’s parents paid for wedding expenses, with the groom’s parents covering the cost of the rehearsal dinner. Present times have changed this formula a bit because the cost of weddings has skyrocketed. Now, it is not uncommon for the couple themselves to pay for the entire cost of the wedding. It is also popular for the bride and groom’s parents to split the check, or all three parties to pay one third each.
Brides that don’t have to monitor their budget are lucky! But for those ladies with limited finances, or just a desire to not spend more than is absolutely necessary, there are plenty of great ideas to save money throughout the wedding planning process.
Guest List Etiquette
Another central, and oft-times taxing, part of wedding planning is creating the guest list. Making one is never simple, especially for weddings on the larger end. There is always the possibility of what’s known as the spider web effect.
For example Peter invites his old roommate from college Antwon to his wedding, but not their mutual friend Bob. Antwon calls Bob and asks if he will be in attendance, making the assumption that he has also received an invitation. Bob is confused and hurt, realizing he was left off the guest list. One has to be extremely careful about the spider web effect because it can alter long-term relationships between a bride and her friends, family, and co-workers.
The Big Day and What it Means
When dealing with vendors, situations can get overwhelming. It is important to remember whose day it is, not the vendors. Always keep in mind that a professional wedding planner can step in and provide assistance.
Just like a marriage is unique to its partners, the most difficult obstacle in planning a wedding may differ from couple to couple. And while speed-bumps can arise during the planning process, it is important to find a middle ground. The most treasured part of the big day is not in the details of the day itself, but in the meaning behind it, and the future of who it’s being shared with.