Beating The Post-wedding Blues

With the hustle and bustle of wedding preparations a distant memory, it’s time for newlyweds to settle into their new lives as husband and wife.

As the excitement of the wedding comes to a close, it’s not uncommon for men and women to feel a little sad. Many individuals feel guilty about these post-wedding blues, not realizing that their feelings are completely normal.

After all, they’ve spent the past year or more planning a fairytale wedding–it’s only natural to feel a little down when it’s all over. Many brides become so consumed in wedding plans that they feel like they don’t know what to do with themselves once it’s over.

Another aspect of the blues comes when couples expect a fairytale ending, and come home to the realities of marriage—which are often more about comfortable sweatpants than sexy lingerie. During this time, it is important for spouses to talk to each other about their feelings and schedule regular time together to reconnect as a couple.

Ways to Reconnect

1. Find a new hobby that interests both individuals. Whether it's ballroom dancing, mountain biking, or bingo, sharing a new interest will bring couples closer together and give them a mutual passion. It will also give them an opportunity to socialize and make new friends.
2. Plan a mini-honeymoon! Schedule a few nights at an intimate bed and breakfast or, if money is tight, plan a weekend camping trip. The time away can be very beneficial to a couple—whether you've been married six months or six weeks. This can be particularly good for couples who miss the planning and excitement over their wedding day and honeymoon, by giving them a reason to refocus and plan their next adventure together.
3. Have an anniversary dinner, and invite some close friends and family over to celebrate. Couples don't need to wait until they've been married a year...why not celebrate the first month of marriage? This time can be used to share memories of the celebration, as well as wedding and honeymoon photos. For a more candid look at the event, ask friends and family members to bring the photos that they took as well.

The First Year

The first year of marriage is often the toughest for newlyweds as they learn how to live together as husband and wife. It is important for both spouses to prepare for this transition and understand that their first year together will be a learning experience where both individuals figure out their roles in the relationship. Newlyweds can make the transition easier by scheduling a special time together to reconnect as a couple and fall in love all over again.